The good news is this can be reversed once the relationship is over. Within a few weeks of ending my 12 year relationship with a narcissist, many people commented on how well I looked. Peering back ...

Rewards are usually the opposite – affection, compliments, money, gifts etc. Narcissists hope to condition you to adhere to the behaviours they want. Basic psychology shows conditioning works.

At the beginning of a relationship or friendship, narcissists pretend to respect boundaries. Because they want to draw you in and gain your trust. But gradually they push more and more. Getting you ...

Unfortunately, this is what many narcissists do to people. They manipulate situations to trap them into double binds. Where you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. There’s many ways ...

Narcissists Flirt To Make You Jealous A little jealousy in a relationship can be flattering and cute. And it confirms that your partner has feelings for you. However “a little jealousy” usually isn’t ...

Narcissists Feel Entitled To Special Treatment When a narcissist goes somewhere like a restaurant, they expect super human levels of service. And anything less may be met with hostility. The ...

It’s never easy cutting someone out from your life. And if you have functioning emotional empathy, it’s easy to feel guilty about it. No matter how destructive they were to you. Narcissists are quick ...

Narcissists DO know what they’re doing! And they do it for a few reasons. First they LOVE the attention. Narcissists need attention and adoration more than most. They also love the thrill of flirting ...

You’re Not Listening To Me In my experience, narcissists say ”You’re not listening to me”, when you’re not agreeing with them. You could be listening to EVERYTHING. And respond appropriately. But they ...

Narcissists Lack Whole Object Relations Narcissists notoriously lack “whole object relations”. This is where you form stable and realistic images of others (and yourself). So if you’re partner is half ...

Narcissists often idealise their partners at the beginning. And treat them like they’re the most precious thing on earth. Then over time, they grow to resent, and even hate them. Why such a stark ...

Surround Themselves With Weaker People Many narcissists like to surround themselves with people they perceive as weaker. That way they can be the “alpha” of the group. And boss people around and feel ...